Intrinsic Value vs. Extrinsic Value
There is a metaphor for being good at an interview versus being good at actually performing the job. Ideally, you want to be both. Before college, Todd had a lot of intrinsic value and was academically oriented. He didn’t know how to convey that intrinsic value. At college, he learned game and basically quit all the things that gave him intrinsic value. He went from only intrinsic value to high social value and less intrinsic value than before he started starting to girls. He then found a balance and his quality of life and relationships improved.
It’s possible to have one without the other in either direction. You can have intrinsic value and not be able to convey it. It’s possible to convey value you fundamentally don’t have. It is best to focus on both intrinsic and social value since there are flaws in both scenarios.
You want to be congruent with a higher-value identity in terms of having intrinsic value. You want to work at the crossroads of attractive attributes and attributes you have. You don’t want to convey high-value behaviors that you are not.
You want to be conveying your attractive attributes that are true to the girl’s blueprint. This is when you are absolute most attractive to her. In order to do this, you need to have an honest and good assessment of you.
It’s also the same goal in business. You have the things you can do, the things you offer, and what a customer is looking for.