Procedure to Building Your Own High-Value Goals

You want to know the biggest thing you want to get out of this. You’re not going to do hard work if you don’t care. 

It’s not reasonable to run a 4-minute mile in 6 months after not running your entire life. You also won’t know specifically if you become a better runner. 

A game goal would be to get dates every few weeks in 6 months after not having talked to girls. It’s unreasonable to go for Hugh Hefner’s lifestyle when you start as a near virgin. 

It’s okay if you are a little bit off. You will still see progress if you made the right steps along the way even if the goal was missed. When in doubt, aim a little higher to make sure you’re really on top of your habits.

If you want to lose weight, you should research the best exercises for you or the best nutrition for you.  

Make sure you’ve done the research and groundwork. Have a plan prepared. 

It’s okay if the plan is not the best one. Developing a habit is more important than the plan at this moment. You should be getting growth just from doing something new. You can then refine and improve on what you’re doing. Understand the habit is the goal. 

Be hard on yourself for the habit, not the end goal. Be proud of yourself if you hit all the habits but not the goals. 

There is going to be accountability in 4 months, so it is best to set the time horizon as 3 or 4 months for this specific webinar only. You can break it up however you want like 3 months and 1 month for two goals. 

You can set any time horizon for any goals. You want to have subgoals for goals with a long time horizon. 

You don’t want it to be so far off that it seems absurd. This makes it feel like each day’s efforts don’t matter. You want it so it is far enough to be inspiring and close enough so that a day’s efforts matter. 

A habit is something you do without thinking about it. When you get a cue in the external world, it motivates you to do something which leads to a reward. This reward can be tangible like getting dessert. It could also be purely emotionally based. 

A good cue could be you stopping by the gym every time you got out of work. This is why many people go to the gym in the evening after work. Another cue would be to put your floss box on top of your pajamas box so you are essentially forced to floss.

Merge your existing habits with these new habits. The more thinking is involved, the less you’re likely to do it. 

Use something like finishing work or waking up as a cue for the habits to develop them. Do your routine and then reward yourself. 

Your reward will eventually become the completion and feeling of doing that habit. 

You won’t need extrinsic rewards later in the process. 

You should be accountable for your goals. 

Using the Facebook group is highly suggested. Communicate with each other. The group will be used as an accountability measure. 

There will be followups over a four-month period. It may be frontloaded with 2 in the first month and 1 in the next following months to emphasize building a habit. 

The homework for this webinar is to write your goal and one habit that will bring you to that goal. Think about how you are going to internalize this habit. This will let you achieve other high-value traits.